He's into what?!

Hey guys- my name is Joe (or “Joeyboy” to some- take your pick) from Cincinnati. A buddy of mine sent me a link to this blog and I was thrilled that someone was making it! I contacted Vince to give some kudos on this excellent fetish commentary and he was kind enough to give me an invitation to contribute. I have a lot of fetish interests (primarily spanking), but am always interested in what makes people tick, and thought I would talk briefly about some of what is out there.

Let’s face it, boys... If there is one thing that can be said about those of us living in the fetish world, it is that we are all beautifully unconventional. Psychologists have previously identified fetishes “Deviant Desires”, not because the people engaging in them are necessarily ‘deviants’, but rather- the desires deviate from conventional sexual behavior. Although Mr. Johnny Vanilla Conventional may raise an eyebrow at you for liking to be hogtied and have your ass paddled, there are even some of our fellow fetishists into things that might make you go, “hmmmm?” Some you may know all about, and others- maybe not. Regardless, this entry is a tribute to our brothers that help us make the world….. a bit more interesting.

Please burst my BUBBLE

To most of us they are a colorful decorative item displayed to celebrate birthdays, graduations and anniversaries, but to these guys - there is nothing sexier than balloons. ‘Looners,’ as they are affectionately known amongst each other, draw tremendous sexual pleasure out of playing with latex balloons. This fetish is known as inflatophelia, and the degree and level of interest varies from person to person (much like all other fetishes). To some there is nothing hotter than inflating, popping, sitting on, humping, or bouncing on a balloon. Unless you happen to have a latex allergy, balloon-fetish is relatively harmless, safe- and utterly accessible!

Does he TICKLE your fancy?

You’ve most likely heard the saying that laughter is the best medicine…. well… it can also be quite the aphrodisiac. Although many of us find it to be a source of sheer aggravation, men all over the world get off on the idea of being tied down and mercilessly tickled by another man (or men). The technical term, Knismolagnia, refers to the experience of sexual satisfaction from engaging in tickling behavior (either by tickling or being tickled). Although not widely accepted as hardcore BDSM, tickling is often associated with similar fantasies of control and domination as seen in other fetish families. Scenes of play, punishment (often referred to as tickle torture), endurance and service are among the fantasies realized through tickle fetish. If laughter really is the best medicine- these boys are the healthiest of us all. However, don’t let the laughter and the smiles fool you. Tickling has the potential to get dangerously out of hand if individual limits are not respected. So as always, play safe- play smart!

Talk about a WAKE UP call!

Now I don’t want to make anyone paranoid, but men with a somnophilia fetish find that their deepest sexual desires are fulfilled when they initiate sex with partner who is sound asleep. This has been casually referred to as “Sleeping Beauty Syndrome.” It is theorized that men with this fetish get off on the vulnerability of the sleeping partner(s). But never fear- overwhelmingly, men with this fetish prefer to awaken their sex partner slowly and gently- and not startle them or use any sort of violent force. Overall- who could think of a more pleasant way to start off the day….but if this does not appeal to you….sleep with one eye open buddy!

A bit of a CRUSH on him….

Although I have known about foot fetish for a long time, I can honestly say that I had no idea just how diverse foot fetishes could be, as evidenced by the next 2 fetishes on the list. The first….CRUSHING! Although the psychos (my affectionate term for psychologists) have not yet come up with a name for this fetish yet, it is gaining popularity. Men with this fetish cannot get enough of watching other men crush objects beneath their feet. One anonymous informant claims, “there is nothing hotter or more masculine than watching guys crush.” I suppose all that can be said is to exercise caution if you choose to crush something with your foot- to avoid injury…. And of course….don’t go crushing anything without consent! Otherwise- step on it boys

KICK it up a notch!

Well… seeing Ninja movies must be like porno for these boys. For some that walk amongst us, there is nothing hotter than total foot domination- in the form of disciplines such as martial arts. I will admit I’ve licked a boot or two in my time, but for these boys- a nice roundhouse kick to the face is much more appealing. There is typically a dominant/submissive dynamic between these men, with the submissive willingly accepting what the “kicker” gives him… as opposed to combat fetish where it is more of a mutual fight. The men into this scene absolutely love his intense contact with the male foot. Naturally- it is important to protect oneself by not engaging in this activity if you don’t have adequate training, as it could cause potentially serious injury. But hey- you can always watch… just for kicks.

Just a little PICK ME UP

Whether it be a playful piggyback ride or hardcore wrestling- there are some guys whose poison is being picked up and carried around by another man. This fetish is called ‘lifting and carrying.’ Although it may take on many forms- men with this fetish love the idea of giving up control and getting (literally) swept off their feet. For these guys- there is nothing better than being manhandled like a ragdoll by a big strong man. Overall this is just good old fashioned fun play….. just make sure you don’t kill yourself trying to impress the guy OK?

COMBATTING Predictability

Some of us are naturally dominant…some of us are naturally submissive, and some of us were born with the ability to be both….. and we make no bones about it. For these boys, however, it is not so simple. Men with what is sometimes referred to as a combat fetish- are sexually turned on by placing themselves in situations (i.e. arm wrestling, nude wrestling, boxing etc.) in which sexual dominance is earned and submission is consequential. It is the unsung fight club of the gay fetish world, in which both partners in a given situation will challenge each other in one fashion or another- with each participant hoping to dominate the other. In the end, only one will prevail- and the other willingly accepts defeat and submits. As with anything else, respect for limits and use of common sense is key… in other words… if he is 10 times your size… just submit brother… we love you anyway!

These are just a few short excerpts from the encyclopedia that could be written about the subject of fetish. Basically, if it has a name, you know somebody gets into it! It is always important to remember that respect, honesty, and integrity are important no matter what you get into. As long as everything is consensual and you are playing safe, don’t suppress it, indulge it!