Question:My Master and i are different in every way. How can i connect to him other that sex and plat (sic) and physically. I want to know his thoughts and him mine, to understand him. We are both new and i feel that it’s hard for us because it’s long distance.
Answer:
You didn't give me your name so I am just going to refer to you as slave. If this is not correct, I apologize. A long distance relationship of any kind is very difficult. A long distance BDSM relationship is even harder. The Master in the relationship needs a way to extend his mastery over the slave. The slave needs to know that the Master cares for the slave. Slaves also need the touch of the Master. To deal with these issues, the Master/slave have to come up with ways to interact regularly. Things that have been done in my relationships are several.
The slave can be required to write a journal of his life every day and submit it to the Master weekly. It is important that the slave discuss his/her feelings about the relationship and life with the Master. The Master can then deal with issues that start to arise. The journal serves as the Master's eyes. It allows him to be a fly on the wall in the slaves life.
I have also found that when the Master gives the slave projects to do, the slave feels as if he/she is doing something for the Master; in effect, serving. Two common things to implement are a mantra or certain position to take at a certain time of day and chastity. When my boys have been away from me, they were required to get in a certain position each morning when they got up and reflect on their service to me. Another way to do things is to require the slave obtain permission to touch themselves or ejaculate. The spefics are up to the Master. I know that when a slave is in chastity, he constantly is thinking about the Master. When permission is given to "release", the slave is acutely aware of the gift that the Master has given.
I am concerned with your statement about the two of you being completely different. If it really is true, why are you serving him. My best advise on how to get him to share his life and for you to share your life is to speak to your Master. Explain to him how you are feeling. Share yourself with him. If he desires to, He will share himself with you. I cannot say this strongly enough: Share you wants, needs, and desires with your Master. He cannot protect his property if he has no idea of the things that are bothering his slave.
I wish you well in your service to your Master. I am confident that if you are both serious about this relationship, you will find way to make it happen. I am here to share any advise that the two of you need or I can direct you to men better than myself. Peace and all Good.
Vince
