Mind Fucks

I have to say that mind fucks are what make the scene exciting. Without them, play would eventually become paddle, flog, and cane sub and wait for tears. It would become boring.
I was a volunteer at South Plains Leather Fest last year in Dallas Texas. I had the privilege of working security for the discussion and demonstration by Hardy Haberman of just this topic. Hardy is a friend and mentor. He also has a sick and twisted mind that he was willing to allow us to walk around in as he shared some of his “mind fucks”. I will not go into his particular discussion because some of you readers might play with him at some point and I do not want to ruin his work.
Mind fucks are situations and conditions that a Dominant puts the submissive in that are so scary, humiliating or potentially dangerous that the submissive is in shock that the Dominant is doing it. A very small example of a mind fuck is one that I caused with my boy Jake. He and I had been going at it hard for about three hours when I decided we were going to get some food. While we were in the car driving back to my hotel room, I took off my belt. Jake's eyes were bulging and his lips quivering. We stepped out of the car and walked toward my room. The entire time I had the belt in my hand as if I would swing it at any moment. After that get together, Jake told me that that episode had blown his mind. He wasn’t sure if I was going to stop the car and bend him over the car. He wasn’t sure if I was going to bend him over outside the hotel or in the lobby. In his words, he was blown away.
This is just a small action carried out by me that made an impression on the submissive. Some mind fucks can be much more involved and scary for the boy. The key to all of them is that the boy maintains that trust that he has given to the dominant. With this being said, there may be times that the mind fuck is so stressful that the submissive baulks. This can be humiliating to the submissive and frustrating to the Dominant. The submissive must as soon as possible apologize for his error and express his devotion and surrender to whatever the Dominant desires. The Dominant needs to be careful to stay just this side of that “fear factor”. The boy breaking is not the goal of the experience. It is scaring the shit out of him.
Hardy is an accomplished writer and blogger. You can read his blogs “Dungeon Diary” and “Flagging Left” here on blogspot.