Honesty

I am going to discuss a topic that is integral to what we do but this may seem a bit preachy. If that offends, you might want to wait for my next installment.
Lets face it, we all lie in some way. We all tell the white lies. Some fudge their age; some their height or weight. In the leather community, many will fudge their experience level. I realize this and understand it. Although I try to avoid it like the plague, I am sure that I am guilty of it.
In a Dominant/submissive relationship, it is a poison that will sour the entire relationship. As a dominant, I need to know that everything that boy Jake tells me is the truth. No matter how bad something is, I can deal with it if I have all the true facts. Acting on falsehoods will eventually dishonor me and my boy.
As a submissive, I owe my Master the truth. I am his property and that means all of me. By lying to Master, I create a a little place inside myself that the Master cannot reach that holds the truth. He cannot act in my best interests because he no longer knows what my best interests are.
Masters (send your hate mail to...) also must be honest with their boys. They need to do it not because they owe it to the boys but because the Masters are the face of the family. The loss of integrity by a Master is a very difficult thing for a boy to overcome. So much of what we do is trust based. Without that trust, our play stops and our relationships stop.
I am not saying that we should use the truth to hurt each other. There are times when a white lie to the question “Do these chaps make my ass look big?” is needed. I just think we need to keep them to a minimum. My father taught me long ago that the worst ass beating you will ever get is for lying. It hurts your butt and it hurts your soul.